Stress Is Always A Response To Negative Events In Your Life
Dealing With Stress - Good Stress And Bad Stress
Stress is a repsonse to the negative events in your life, as well as
the positive events in your life. The effects of stress can be really
damaging to your health, and dealing with stress - regardless if it's
bad stress or good stress - becomes a way of life for some of us.
Relieving stress to prevent stress overload is a major factor in
maintaining a healthy lifestyle. The key is to find a solution that
fits with you. There are many ways to eliminate stress from your
life, just concentrate on finding something that you're happy with.
Effects Of Stress By Loren Fogelman
Stress is a part of daily life. Everyone has stress. Some people
appear to have more stress than others. Stress is one way we react to
specific events in our life. There are times when you might feel that
too much is happening at once and feel overwhelmed.
Other times, you feel the pressure of time or a deadline and realize
you need to take care of something before it is too late. Having been
in a similar situation before will create anxiety. How we perceive a
situation will effect how we respond to it. There is good stress and
bad stress.
Good Stress Is A Motivator
Knowing that you have an obligation to address and a timeframe. That
type of stressor puts you into action in order to meet a deadline. Or
you might be in an unexpected situation where you need to make a
split second response in order to avoid danger. This could be
slamming your foot on the brake to avoid an accident.
Anticipation of a competition or performance will cause tension and
nervousness prior to the event. This stress is nervousness due to an
increased flow of adrenaline going through your body. Your body is
preparing for the "fight or flight" syndrome. The release of
adrenaline prepares your body to take the steps to deal with the
situation, including improved focus, strength, stamina and heightened
alertness.
People Also Have Bad Stress In Their
Lives
Whether we perceive a situation as being stressful or not depends on
previous experiences. One person might see being in a multi tasking
job as very stressful, feeling overwhelmed and becoming anxious about
their work.
Another person might find multi tasking enjoyable because they
continue to stay busy and time goes by faster. Your body is capable
of dealing with stress for short periods of time. When the stress is
ongoing i.e. dealing with a divorce or bankruptcy, this can wear a
person down. Long term stress is contributing to feeling tired,
overwhelmed and also contributes to lowered immunity.
The Body's Reactions To Stress Is...
Once you view something as being stressful, whether positive or
negative, your body reacts to that perception. The response to this stress is is a
survival technique and a defense mechanism. The reaction is referred
to as the "fight or flight" response. Either you are going to fight
the attacker or you will choose to flee from the threat.
This includes increased heart rate and blood pressure, perspiration,
hearing and vision become more acute and hands and feet might become
colder since blood is being directed to larger muscles in preparation
for a fight or to flee. Your body is being prepped to handle the
situation. When the threat is over, your body will return to normal.
If your body has difficulty returning to normal, then you would
experience stress overload. This is when you stress out too much or
have ongoing stress in your life and never get a chance to relax.
Pressure in your life might be too intense or go on for too long
without a break. People that have experienced trauma are likely to
have stress overload. If trauma is not resolved then you might become
hypervigilant, a sense of being overly aware of possible danger. You
might always be "on guard."
Stress Overload Has An Emotional And Physical
Effect On The Body
This type of stress is panic attacks, depression, sleep problems,
physical pain i.e. headaches and allergies as well as abuse of
alcohol or other drugs.
Having unresolved trauma will effect your perception. Situations that
might not have caused tension prior to the trauma can have the
ability to create anxiety after the trauma. Becoming aware of how
your perception has changed and seeking support to address the trauma
issue can be helpful to reduce ongoing stressors and to reduce
anxiety.
Seeking counseling that focuses on cognitive perceptions will help to
decrease hypervigilance and will help to reduce the likelihood of
continuing to be retraumatized. In addition, your body has memory of
the event as well. Being able to release that reaction to the memory
of the event from your body will help to reduce stress overload and
triggers.
Stress And Control
Stress is contributed to the desire to be in control. This not only
includes control over yourself, but control over other people and
your environment. Trying to control others and your environment,
however, is impossible. You only have control over your own thoughts
and actions.
In order to relieve stress and anxiety it is important to let go of
trying to control things outside of yourself. We are unable to
foresee the future and cannot control what events will happen next.
Focusing on future potential problems contributes to anxiety.
On the other hand, people are able to prepare for things that might
occur and have a plan of how you would like to respond to events.
This could be as simple as having a repair kit in your car for
getting a flat tire or preparation for an interview and the questions
that might be asked during the interview process.
Part Of Living Life Is That Things Always
Change
Change is normal. How you perceive something will impact how you
react to it. This is where the fight or flight reaction occurs. You
can decide to be proactive and address the situation. Making a choice
to take care of things when they occur.
Or you can expend a lot of energy avoiding issues and letting them
build. Taking action will actually help to reduce stress and anxiety
in the long run. In addition, there will be a feeling of empowerment
as you begin to deal with problems as they arise.
Handling stress is trusting your intuition and creatively thinking of all ways you could
resolve the issue at hand. Even if you try to tackle a problem and
don't succeed, you could then view this as a temporary setback.
Review what happened and try to approach it differently.
Setbacks can be temporary. Find who your friends are and develop a
support system. Another option is to seek counseling in order to have
someone that is impartial as part of your support system. You don't
have to always take care of problems by yourself.
Ask your friends, counselor or other support persons what they think
about a situation. They might have ideas that you would not think of
on your own. Learning to address problems as they occur will help you
to change your perception of things from problems to challenges.
Doing so will continue to help you build your sense of self esteem
and empowerment. Identifying challenges as they occur, developing a
plan to deal with the challenge, asking others for their point of
view, taking action and keeping focus on the goal you are working
toward will help to strengthen your resiliency.
Steps To Reduce Stress
Each one of us is a unique individual and we all have different
experiences throughout our lives that affect our perception. What
might be a stressful event for one person, might not be viewed as
stressful for someone else.
In addition, stress is all around us and some activities are more stressful than others. Self
care including eating well and getting enough sleep are important for
stress reduction. Making time for doing activities that are relaxing
is preventative to reducing stress overload.
Relaxation is important, but there is no one right way to relax.
Some people find that sleeping or going to the beach is relaxing.
Others choose to be involved in an enjoyable activity or hobby as a
way of relaxing.
The Goal Is To Find An Activity That Allows You
To Escape From Everyday Worries And Problems
There is no right way to do that. Relieving stress can be done by
meditation, exercise or doing an activity. Making the time to care
for yourself is a priority that helps to reduce stress overload.
As you focus on making positive change in your life that will help to
reduce stress and anxiety, be forgiving of yourself if you don't
resolve your problems immediately. Being critical of yourself is very
easy to do, especially when people close to you have been critical of
you for a long period of time.
Stress is that critical voice can be very loud when you don't get it right the
first time. A suggestion is a positive response to the changes you
are trying to make and to be forgiving of yourself when things don't
go perfectly as planned. These are some suggestions that might work
or to come up with your own.
"As things develop, I will, through listening to guidance from my
unconscious, adapt to changing circumstances and grow with them."
"I may not get what I want when I want it; I trust that things will
work out in their own good time, for my ultimate benefit, as long as
I remain calm and peaceful."
"I may not get what I want at all, and yet, in remaining calm and
attentive, I may discover something else that I need even more than
what I thought I wanted."
How You Perceive A Situation Will Affect How You
Respond
Whether you choose to address the issue or to avoid it. If you have a
negative perception then you are more likely to experience anxiety
and not be able to effectively take care of the problem.
This will then reinforce that you have no control over the outcome
and reinforce the perception of being helpless. On the other hand, a
positive perception will help you to find a way to deal with the
challenge you are presented with.
If you choose to take responsibility for your feelings and actions
then you are more likely to have a positive outcome. This will
reinforce the sense of resiliency and empowerment. Breaking old
patterns of behavior is difficult, especially when trying to do it by
yourself.
Being willing to look at yourself and to identify changes you would
like to make takes a lot of energy and time. The more effort you put
into making a positive lifestyle change, the greater the feeling of
accomplishment you will experience. Develop a support system, whether
family, friends or a counselor. Having someone that helps you to make
positive change will increase the likelihood that the change will be
long term instead of temporary.
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