Releasing Emotional Pain After Divorce And Taking Back Your Life
The Emotional Pain Of Divorce Heals Slowly
Releasing emotional pain after divorce becomes a priority of taking back your life. It's important to let
go of the emotional pain, and move on.
Releasing The Emotional Pain By Richard Eckersberg
Once the initial shock of my divorce wore off, that is when the emotions wreaked havoc upon my heart and soul
and very being. The questions came at a rapid pace through my mind and demanded an immediate answer. Before I
could formulate and respond, three more had been asked with the same intensity and insistence as the previous.
When would this end?
Enduring sleepless nights, coupled with no appetite, motivation and continual bouts of self doubt were taking
a tremendous toll upon my well being and overall health. My emotional and physical states were at risk because
of this turmoil in my heart. It needed to end and, though countless people offered to help, I was the one
ultimately responsible for this. A change was in order.
I Started By Accepting What Had Happened And Reasoned That...
Although it is unpleasant and ugly, it shall pass. Everyday will be a little less painful. By redirecting my
negative energy on a more positive outlook, things began to change.
First, instead of focusing on what I did not have, I focused on what I did have. My furniture, clothes, kitchen
equipment, CD's, books and other miscellaneous possessions were gone, but, my health, friends, family and career
were still intact. All the material items could be replaced with ease and I could rebuild my life in that aspect.
Second, My Career Has Always Been A Wonderful Adventure Through The Culinary World
I have had the privilege and honor of cooking for presidents, vice presidents, members of congress, movie
stars and, best of all, my friends and family. These last two were, and still are, my favorite.
No pressure involved (or secret service agents lurking about) and wine can be consumed during the cooking.
Drinking is frowned upon while at work for a good reason. I tell people all the time that my office is stainless
steel with 500 degree ovens, open flames and many sharp knives, so it is best to be cautious at all times.
I have also worked and am currently working at some of the most prestigious hotels and resorts in America. I am
truly blessed to have this and thank God everyday for my skills. I am not an artist; I am simple kid who was
given a talent and chose to follow a path to success.
Third and what I believe to be the most important, friends and family. My soon-to-be-ex-wife comes from
(for lack of a better term) a dysfunctional family. All families are dysfunctional to an extent and suffer some
oddities, but not at this level. Her family is cold and void of emotion. Detached is the best word I can use. Mine,
though accused of being dysfunctional (among other things), and has always provided a safe haven.
Through Thick And Thin Or Good And Bad...
A non-wavering strength was always the cornerstone; built of honesty, integrity, truth and, most important,
unconditional love.
As for friends, this one of life's greatest treasures. I have only two that I consider to be my best. One
has been with me since the beginning (forty one years to be exact) and the other for over twenty five now.
No matter my success or failure, the relationship dynamic never changed, I was and always will be the
same to them. They see me as I see myself, a real genuine person and nothing more. Careers and money don't
make you, character does.
The friends I have and currently do work with deserve more accolades than one man can bestow. If it were not
for their support, guidance, love, prayers and many late night bar sessions, I would be living in an eternal
state of misery.
You Have To Understand A Thing About Chefs - We Are Not Normal
To put it as simply as I can, we work so you can play. The long hours (sometimes twelve to fourteen a day),
weekends and holidays, birthdays, everyday, we are together; this is our life.
We are anal retentive, obsessive/ compulsive, passionate, opinionated, sarcastic and even cult like in our ways.
This is a description that I love to hear. To me, there is no other life or people I would rather be with. Seeing
them is like having a warm blanket on a chilly night.
With all that has been said and written here, the pain of this divorce is slowly subsiding. I am regaining my
emotional strength and carrying on. Through the continual support of my friends and family and my belief that
God will always help me, I will be fine.
I Hope This Helps Somebody Else As Much As It Has Helped Me To Write It
As I have said before in previous articles; time does heal all wounds and although a scar remains, it will
soon fade away as will the hurt.
Now, if you will you excuse me, the pasta is ready and I have to open the Merlot. It is time to enjoy another
wonderful meal with friends. Salute to life.
About the Author:
I am a professional chef who enjoys writing about the humor in everyday life.
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