Releasing Emotional Pain After Divorce
And Taking Back Your Life
The Emotional Pain Of Divorce Heals
Slowly
Releasing emotional pain after divorce becomes a priority of
taking back your life. It's important to let go of the emotional
pain, and move on.
Releasing The Emotional
Pain By Richard Eckersberg
Once the initial shock of my divorce wore off, that is when the
emotions wreaked havoc upon my heart and soul and very being. The
questions came at a rapid pace through my mind and demanded an
immediate answer. Before I could formulate and respond, three
more had been asked with the same intensity and insistence as the
previous. When would this end?
Enduring sleepless nights, coupled with no appetite, motivation
and continual bouts of self doubt were taking a tremendous toll
upon my well being and overall health. My emotional and physical
states were at risk because of this turmoil in my heart. It
needed to end and, though countless people offered to help, I was
the one ultimately responsible for this. A change was in order.
I started by accepting what had happened and
reasoned that...
Although it is unpleasant and ugly, it shall pass. Everyday will
be a little less painful. By redirecting my negative energy on a
more positive outlook, things began to change.
First, instead of focusing on what I did not have, I focused on
what I did have. My furniture, clothes, kitchen equipment, CD's,
books and other miscellaneous possessions were gone, but, my
health, friends, family and career were still intact. All the
material items could be replaced with ease and I could rebuild my
life in that aspect.
Second, my career has always been a
wonderful adventure through the culinary world
I have had the privilege and honor of cooking for presidents,
vice presidents, members of congress, movie stars and, best of
all, my friends and family. These last two were, and still are,
my favorite.
No pressure involved (or secret service agents lurking about) and
wine can be consumed during the cooking. Drinking is frowned upon
while at work for a good reason. I tell people all the time that
my office is stainless steel with 500 degree ovens, open flames
and many sharp knives, so it is best to be cautious at all times.
I have also worked and am currently working at some of the most
prestigious hotels and resorts in America. I am truly blessed to
have this and thank God everyday for my skills. I am not an
artist; I am simple kid who was given a talent and chose to
follow a path to success.
Third and what I believe to be the most important, friends and
family. My soon-to-be-ex-wife comes from (for lack of a better
term) a dysfunctional family. All families are dysfunctional to
an extent and suffer some oddities, but not at this level. Her
family is cold and void of emotion. Detached is the best word I
can use. Mine, though accused of being dysfunctional (among other
things), and has always provided a safe haven.
Through thick and thin or good and
bad...
A non-wavering strength was always the cornerstone; built of
honesty, integrity, truth and, most important, unconditional
love.
As for friends, this one of life's greatest treasures. I have
only two that I consider to be my best. One has been with me
since the beginning (forty one years to be exact) and the other
for over twenty five now. No matter my success or failure, the
relationship dynamic never changed, I was and always will be the
same to them. They see me as I see myself, a real genuine person
and nothing more. Careers and money don't make you, character
does.
The friends I have and currently do work with deserve more
accolades than one man can bestow. If it were not for their
support, guidance, love, prayers and many late night bar
sessions, I would be living in an eternal state of misery.
You have to understand a thing about chefs,
we are not normal
To put it as simply as I can, we work so you can play. The long
hours (sometimes twelve to fourteen a day), weekends and
holidays, birthdays, everyday, we are together; this is our life.
We are anal retentive, obsessive/ compulsive, passionate,
opinionated, sarcastic and even cult like in our ways. This is a
description that I love to hear. To me, there is no other life or
people I would rather be with. Seeing them is like having a warm
blanket on a chilly night.
With all that has been said and written here, the pain of this
divorce is slowly subsiding. I am regaining my emotional strength
and carrying on. Through the continual support of my friends and
family and my belief that God will always help me, I will be
fine.
I hope this helps somebody else as much as
it has helped me too write it
As I have said before in previous articles; time does heal all
wounds and although a scar remains, it will soon fade away as
will the hurt.
Now, if you will you excuse me, the pasta is ready and I have to
open the Merlot. It is time to enjoy another wonderful meal with
friends. Salute to life.
About the Author:
I am a professional chef who enjoys writing about the humor in
everyday life.
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