Learning to forgive is the best thing you could ever do for
yourself.It's the process of learning to heal,learning self
forgiveness, and knowing how to forgive so you can let go of the
situation, and move on with your life.
The forgiving process goes through stages of realizing the person who hurt you,
or caused you pain, is just a person who is weak, needy and tried to feel superior
by being cruel to you. But for your own sanity, you still have to forgive this person, or
continue to give them complete control over your life.
If You Try To Forget The Situation..
And push it to the back of your mind, it will only come back stronger than it
originally was. If you continue to hate this person, it will take away your
happiness and joy.
Learning to forgive is not about seeking revenge against this person, life has
shown that this can fail and cause you hurt instead. Besides, revenge only leads
to a vicious circle of this person seeking to get back at you again!
Learning to forgive or forgiving doesn't mean you're weak and
people can walk all over you. Neither or you excusing what this person did to you.
What you are doing is letting this person know that they are responsible for what
they did to you, and then you're going to go on with your life.
How To Forgive:
(1) When learning to forgive someone, you need to do it first. If you
wait for the other person, then you are putting the control in the other
person's hand.
(2) If the person really wants to come back into your life, let
them know exactly how much they hurt you, and that you refuse to be hurt that
way in the future.
(3) If you can't forgive right now, you don't have to. It takes time
to work up to the point where you can forgive someone for hurting you. Be very patient.
(4) Learning to forgive is about forgiving what they did to you, not
necessarily the person. If the person is mean and hateful, you may never forgive
them, so you must forgive what they did to you instead.
(5) Don't expect this person to change when you do this, and you don't have
to let this person back into your life.
(6)When you go through the process of learning to forgive and
learning how to heal, remember that you may need to be forgiven one day.
(7) Learn the difference between anger and hate. You can be angry, that
is okay and anger is a desire to correct a wrong, but hate may lead to you wishing this
person ill-will, and that can be self-destructive for you. You can forgive and be angry,
but you can't forgive and still hate. If necessary, talk about this hatred with someone
you trust. You need to acknowledge it, accept it and then let it go.
(8) Lastly, the hardest thing you will have to do when learning to forgive, is
self forgiveness. Forgiveness can't be completed until you forgive yourself. If you
are in anyway responsible, then guilt will be present and you may feel you deserved what happened.
(9) Self forgiveness is the only way you can let go of a past that can't be un-done.
Admit your part in it, and stop trying to be perfect. Self forgiveness allows you to experience
freedom and opens up your heart and life for more love.
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