When it comes to ignoring negative experiences and trying to replace them with positive
ones, there is no easy and clear-cut way. As much as you would like life to work that way, it doesn't.
For example, when you were a child, and your goldfish died, you would have been heartbroken. Your parents
probably bought you another goldfish, but the sorrow was still there.
Well things get even more complex when you become an adult. A fight with your spouse the night
before will affect your entire day. You go to work angry, tired, and your mind wanders.
On the way home from work you won't notice the sun shining... so you won't be tempted to stop
at a roadside stand to pick up some fresh fruits and vegetables.
Hiding Positive Emotions Behind Negative Emotions
All of this because of that one negative action! And all day that action consumed and contaminated the way you perceived
reality around you.
This is why nuturing your positive emotions becomes a lifelong goal for those of you who are concerned
about improving your emotional health. I'm not saying that you should or have to walk around all day like
little Miss Sunshine with a smile on your face...
But people tend to put their positive emotions behind negative feelings, and this is one
of the biggest problems that we come across during our lives. Ignoring or hiding our negative emotions instead
of facing them and dealing with them.
There is no ignoring negative experiences for long, because it's natural for our emotions to dominate our
actions and reactions, even though we don't want them to. No matter how strict and logical you may be, you
will always feel.
Not everyone will agree to this, but I believe that when you become aware of your actions and reactions
to certain situations, you can control how these situations affect your life. The key I believe is to focus
on your reactions to all negative experiences.
Escapism Is Temporary - Not Permanent
It doesn't mean ignoring negative experiences, because that would not be healthy. But
learning to cope and deal with them in a positive way can lead to living a better life.
Finding a safe place to relax your mind so that you can get away for just a while,
can do wonders for your emotional and mental improvement. Finding a place is relatively
easy. It can be an actual place or an imaginary location. When you find this place...
totally lose yourself in it.
The purpose: ignoring negative experiences so that you can discover what it takes to either turn
them into positive experiences or learn how to control your reaction to them.
Get Busy - Find Something Fun To Do!
Let's say you have a troubling problem on your mind and it just won't go away. Go bowling. Don't
know how? It doesn't matter! Give it a shot anyway!
Have fun! Get caught up in the game. Your mind will drift away from the negative thoughts
that have dominated your last hours or days, and it will start processing different information.
A safe haven can take many forms. It can be a movie, a book, a song, even a person or an
animal. The main thing is to control your reactions and allow yourself to get completely involved
with this new activity.
You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then, but ignoring negative experiences
is okay for now, just get even more absorbed in what you're doing.
Always Return To Reality
When the bowling game, the movie, the book or the song ends, you will abruptly return to
reality. You will probably want to retreat back to the safe place. But Do Not Do It!
Your safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to ingnoring negative
experiences forever. It serves only as an OCCASSIONAL escape route. A place to go where you
can learn how to react to negative emotions.
You should return from your safe zone with an increased energy level. You should feel better
about yourself and gain more confidence. You should see that any problem you have can be resolved.
This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your emotional and mental health, and give
you a chance to focus on something positive. Try to do this occassionally and you are on your way to
better self improvement in dealing with the negative situations in your life. But please, don't turn
this into a crutch for ingnoring negative experiences forever.
This exercise is for the purpose of learning how to react positively toward any negative situations
that may enter your life.
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