Don't Live In The Past

People you think are your friends can do the most damage to your feelings. You expect it of your enemies, but not your friends. And if you can forgive and learn from your enemies...you can do the same for your friends.

Never put yourself in that particular situation again. It doesn't mean you can't have friends...it means you will be more discerning when it comes to forming friendships. It means everyone isn't and can't be your friend. Even in an abundant life. Unfortunately this is also how it works.

In a life time, you can count true friends on one hand...if that many. In my life time I've had to forgive a few people...and only a very small percentage of them were people I considered to be friends.

I still like these people, I've forgiven them...but there is no trust and I learned from each and everyone of these experiences. So it's okay to remember...as long as it's for learning the lesson you were meant to learn. And you don't have to forget...as long as it's to REMIND you of the lesson you learned.

Anything else defeats your purpose...your goals...and your life. Because you will have given this person complete control over you...you will have given them your power to be a happy and complete individual.

So forgive and learn from the past and move on with your life.

Using The Past as a Learning Tool
by Jeffrey A Solochek

I believe heavily in not bearing any resentments but we all must use the past as a valuable learning experience otherwise what's to stop us from making those same mistakes again in the future. I cringe when I think back to some of the things I have done but I only retain my memory of them so that they can be used as stepping stone lessons because there are still many years ahead of me and I don't want these things to ever be repeated.

I know back when I was in grade school the most important thing to me was getting a good grade on one particular test and chances are I would use my one day to make everything right back then when I was just a child.

Forgive - But Also Learn From The Past

Someone who I thought was a friend expected me to just forget everyone elses past mistakes but yet this did not apply to the others when they looked at me.

If somebody, in the past, had taken advantage of me or had done wrong by me I was not to use that when making present day decisions but just forget their past dealings and extend my trust to them as if nothing had ever happened.

This is like the scenario if you always insist on crossing a particular street when walking home and yet every time you do this you get robbed on that street then wouldn't it be better if in the future we went another way?

If I get lousy customer service when dealing with a certain store then chances are I will use that lousy customer service experience as a lesson and not do business with that store again. Doesn't this make sense?

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