Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

Being A Poor Me Puts You Into A Victim Mode

Have you been feeling sorry for yourself lately? Everyone is allowed to experience this occasionally, but it's important to get up, get rid of your negative attitude and jump back to your plans and life as soon as possible. The longer you remain in this state, the easier it becomes to thrive in this state and develope negative thinking.

I'm sure you have been around someone who is going through this, and you will notice that everything revolves around them, what's been done to them or what they don't have. You will also notice they blame everyone else for their troubles, and will not take responsibility for any of the actions that brought them to this point.

Feeling sorry for yourself is okay, but it's not meant to be a way life! This 'poor me' attitude can lead to many other negative experiences in your life, and all it will do is bring more conditions into your life for you to blame on others.

Recognize this 'poor me' state for what it is and try your best to reach beyond it. Don't let feeling sorry for yourself smother the life out of your dreams and desires, thus giving it complete control and power over you.

The complainers are all about themselves or 'poor me'. How, many 'poor me' people really do have things wrong in their lives. Their problems are real so they may feel justified in being a 'poor me'. But being a 'poor me' puts you into victim mode and being a victim is never healthy or wise.

We often do not know that all our negative thoughts and actions keep the cycle of negative energy floating back to us. What you give out comes back to you. For a 'poor me', this creates one thing after another to complain about. So how do you stop this negative cycle of feeling sorry for yourself?

Step 1.

You must want to change old habits. No one can do it for you. A 'poor me' probably learned this behavior as a child or from friends.

Step 2.

Let go of things that are not working for you. This is a biggy. This means letting go of friends who keep you down, jobs that you don't like, or a relationship that is abuse or is just not working for the both of you. You must change to let go of your 'poor me' attitude and behavior.

Step 3

Listen to yourself. Stop and change your language or your thoughts when you are ready to say a negative thought or complaint. If you have a pain or ache, for example, say "I release my need for pain." What will your world be like without that pain? Visualize a new way of being. Allow yourself to heal.

Step 4

Do something nice for yourself that makes you feel good. Look at the sunrise each day or take a walk in a park or forest. Talk to a special friend (but not about your 'poor me'stuff). Have a treat. Do something nice for someone else.

Step 5

Forgive those around you who have hurt your feelings. Send them love instead of talking badly about them. People who do bad things can benefit from love. This can be tough but sending love will make you feel better too.

Step 6

Start being aware of the gift of life you have received. It may be difficult at times but take a look around and be thankful for one thing each day. It can be as simple as someone smiling at you or saying thank you as you open a door for someone. Wake up to little things that you appreciate and soon you will have a whole list of things you like.

Step 7

Know that every experience is part of our spiritual journey and it has purpose, even if we can understand it. There is a Divine purpose for your life and you will discover it and wake up as you change from feeling sorry for yourself and a 'poor me' into a 'thankful me'.

Step 8

Love yourself and treat yourself well. Love others and feel their love for you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Expand your love and feel connected to others and your community. You will feel the difference as your live transforms into greater harmony and peace.

Step 9

Take good care of your health by eating well and exercising everyday. Meditate everyday to discover the beautiful inner you and feel the love of God within.

Step10

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Enjoy the new you. You deserve to be happy and joyful. Others will benefit by your new way of being. Shine your inner light as brightly as you can. Say "Yes, Yes Yes" to having peace in your life and really mean it. Now, enjoy your new way of living!