Enjoys Worrying About Past Pain

Worrying Is Negative Goal Setting

Are you one who enjoys worrying about past pain? Even if you aren't, there are those who do, unfortunately. They become bogged down and stuck in the past. So much so, that they aren't even aware of their present lives.

They can't function, unless it's in the past! And sadly, you can't help them until they realize that the past is gone, and that worrying is negative and is nothing more than negative goal setting. Setting the tone of how their future will be.

Someone I know enjoys worrying about the past so much, that they have no present and no future. They actually live in the past. Don't let this happen to you.

I write about what I know and what I have experienced. I do this because if I can turn my situation around, just about anyone can.

I am a recovering alcoholic, sober for 25 years. I had multiple problems to overcome to gain my sobriety. Worrying was one of those problems. My mother was a big worrier. She worried about everything and raised her children to be worriers, too.

Enjoys Worrying: Manufacture Things To Worry About

I worried so much that it crippled me mentally and emotionally. I manufactured things in my mind to worry about, problems that had nothing to do with my reality. I discovered that this triggered my drinking.

I later learned that worrying is negative goal setting and by concentration on negative goals, I was bringing those bad events into my reality. Once I understood this, I really wanted to change.

I knew that I had to stop worrying, but I did not know how to start. Does this sound like you? Let me share with you how I did it. Do you ever worry about things that have happened to you in the past?

When we think about a past event we are concerned how this will play out in our future. The past is dead. The only thing you can bring with you from the past are lessons, but only if you are willing and open to learn and change.

Enjoys Worrying: Remains Stuck In The Past

If you stay stuck in the past, you miss your present life comletely. You simply go through the motions of life, but you are not living. Let's decide right now that since we can't change the past you will not concentrate on it.

If you don't worry about the past, do you worry about the present? Probably not. If we have a problem in the present moment we are usually actively dealing with it. If you are concerned about your present, ask yourself a few questions.

Enjoys Worrying: Regardless Of Your Comforts

Am I hungry, am I warm, do I have shelter, and am I in pain? If your answer to any of those questions is yes, your first actions should be to pursue a course to improve your situation. You must take care of yourself first. If your answers are appropriate, then all is well with you and you are free to deal with any outside issues.

If we don't worry about the past and we are presently doing fine, then what do we worry about? The future. It is a time and space that is not promised to us. I found that the only way to stop worry about my future was to actively prepare for it in the present time and space.

Enjoys Worrying: Instead Of Working On Solutions

Spend your time working on the solution to the situation that could occur in your future An example: You have lost your job and not made a mortgage payment in two months. Any cash you have goes toward food. You are worried that you and your family will end up on the street.

What happens three months from now if you worry and do absolutely nothing about your situation? Yes, you and your family could end up on the street. Instead of worrying, spend your time working on a solution to your problem and this will not happen to you and your family.

If you believe in God, there is a saying. GOD does not move parked cars. Get moving, believe, if blindly and magic will begin to happen.

Enjoys Worrying: Loves To Watch Your Negative Movie

To stop worrying, spend your time working on a solution to the problem And even more importantly, think about how wonderful the solution will be. When you think about the solution, by all means feel really good about it.

Get your emotions involved in the solution? Take baby steps if you must. This is how you do that. The moment you catch yourself worrying - stop and concentrate on the solution you want to occur for you.

Think, visualize, picture the best outcome in your mind and feel great about it. Hold that thought for as long as you can. Make it a picture show in your mind. You will enjoy your movie. After all you have a negative movie running when you worry.

Enjoys Worrying: Instead of Positively Changing Your Life

We do not worry about the past or present, We only worry about the future. Only you can change your future. You cannot have two emotions going at the same time. Worry and fear or joy and peace. You can worry or you can think positively about the best solution and feel good about it. You decide.

Albert Einstein said: "Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attraction."