Detaching From A Relationship

The Difference Between Detachment And Disengagement

Detaching from a relationship isn't the same as disengagement from a relationship. We all bring emotional issues and emotional immaturity into a relationship, but learning what all this means and how it can affect you is the key factor in surviving any relationship.

Detachment can mean more than just detaching from the outcome of your visualizations, this is another aspect viewed from being in a relationship. But I believe the outcome of both still depends heavily on how much you are willing to detach.

Detaching From A Relationship: Emotional Immaturity

Blaming your partner for an action when they are just doing the best they can at the time with what they have is to invite a breakdown in communication and intimacy.

Not being sensitive to your partner's negative emotional state due to a situation in their career or life is to send a message that you are emotionally distant from their needs, desires, dreams, hopes, fears or feelings.

Detaching From A Relationship: Detachment And Disengagement

-I am not responsible for your feelings.

-I am not responsible for your outcomes.

-I am not responsible for your attitudes.

-I am not responsible or the consequences of your actions.

-I am not responsible for the consequences of your decisions.

-I am not responsible for your behaviors.

-I am not responsible for your stress.

When I detach from your stuff, and it is your stuff, I let you grow and learn what life wants you to learn from your errors in judgment, mistakes and actions at any given point in time. I am there to support you, help you where you feel I can help but you must do the work.

Detaching From A Relationship: Meaning Of Disengagement

Detachment helps others grow, learn and develop If you will only let them. Disengagement puts distance, often un-repairable distance, between you and your partner.

Emotional maturity is bringing the right amount of emotional support, connection or outlook to any situation.

It is seeing clearly that this STUFF is in your life to help you grow. Each of us can contribute to our partner's growth or we can sabotage it.

We sabotage it when we play emotional games and stay stuck in negative emotional manipulation. We help them when we help them see clearly how their emotional state has contributed to their situation or how it keeps them stuck in the past or in negative issues.

Detaching From A Relationship: How Others Perceive Detachment

We all have to learn life's lessons sooner or later. We can learn them the easy way or the hard way but life doesn't care. The lessons keep coming and coming. You can whine, complain, feel like a victim or you can get on with it. It's your choice.