Definition Of Forgiveness
With Steps To Forgiveness

The Magic Of Forgiveness Means Freedom From Emotional Baggage

The definition of forgiveness is letting go of the past and moving forward to the healing process, and of course there is no healing if you can't let go of that past. However, there are steps to forgiveness that you can do , that could possibly aid you in this process.

I know from exprerience how difficult the healing process can be, but that is the magic of forgiveness... it can be done! It's also true what they say about time healing all wounds and helping you to forget.

I stated in Release Anger: Let The Past Go And Forgive, that you can forgive, but you don't forget, and you will notice the author of the article below has stated that, "The bi-product of forgiveness, is our own willingness and ability to forget!"

I agree, and in all fairness to the definition of forgiveness, I should have explained what I meant about not being able to forget. You will always remember the situation that caused you pain. There is no getting around that... but you can forget the intensity of the pain and the heartache, and I believe this comes with forgiving and time.

Once you can remember without feeling the pain, then you have truly forgotten and can then move on to bigger and better things for your life. This is the definition of forgiveness.

Forgiveness Is A Function Of Love...

Let's explore the definition of forgiveness. The meaning of the verb forgive, translates into "to let go", which is the act of forgiveness. Forgiveness is the release (letting go) of negative feelings generated in you by another. It is your responsibility to let go of the hurt that another produces for you. The other person can apologize to you for their negative impact, but you still have to let go of the hurt feelings in order for forgiveness to become a healing experience.

What Makes Forgiveness So Difficult For So Many

The definition of forgiveness, like all other soul qualities (peace, love, innocence, respect, oneness, and passion) does not require a type of behavior. It begins with a relinquishing of emotional baggage and the choice to function from your Soul versus your negative ego.

The definition of forgiveness is a willingness to perceive everyone, including yourself, as either feeling and expressing love or perceiving it's absence, and having a need for more love. It is a relinquishing of a harmful train of thought that leads to constricting feelings. Forgiveness offers freedom to live a full and harmonious life.

The Bi-Product Of Forgiveness Is Our Own Willingness And Ability To Forget

If you feel that forgiving adds one more grudging obligation to your life, you are functioning from your negative ego. Understanding that forgiveness is the doorway to your happiness and is the choice to function with love. When you are attacked by another, you must first deal with the hurt feelings that you honestly feel. The definition of forgiveness is not a short cut to avoid dealing with the negative impact of your emotions. Too many try to forgive without releasing their anger and hurt. That common mistake only represses the anger and it putrefies into resentment down the road.

A great habit to cultivate is to pause whenever you are having difficulty releasing an upset from your mind. Look directly, and in detail at the contents of your thoughts. Dissect your emotions. Step back from them for a moment and gain new perspective. Write them down in a journal to gain deeper clarity. And give yourself time to forgive, it doesn't have to be instantaneous, but know it is necessary to your happiness and peace.

A person who claims they "love everyone equally" and are never hurt by others are not more spiritually evolved, but more likely emotionally repressed. To be a spiritual, doesn't mean you have to like the ego of everyone that crosses your path, for you would then become transparent and lose your individuality. Liking somebody and letting go of someone's negative impact upon you are two completely different issues.

Steps To Forgiveness:

2. Forgive Yourself: Close your eyes and relax. Mentally repeat, I forgive myself for allowing myself to be hurt/disappointed by this experience with _________ (person's name).

3. Express Your Emotions Meditatively: While you are still meditating begin to express your thoughts and feelings to the person you are forgiving. Let them know how much it has hurt you and how upset you are by their actions. If you are so angry you want to hit them, then do it (IMAGINATIVELY) express your pent up emotions within your imagination.

NOTE: Your intention is to release the feelings around this person and to forgive them. That is where the energy will go towards. You will not be sending this person negative energy unless that is your intention.

4. Forgive Them: With your eyes still closed, sense a light coming down from above you. It is a warm healing light that surrounds you and creates a safe environment for forgiveness. Visualize the person you wish to forgive, and see them inside the light. Mentally tell them, I forgive you for hurting/disappointing me in this way. Mentally reaffirm what you are forgiving them for. Then release them into the light.

When you finally understand the definition of forgiveness, you can generate the healing of forgiveness, by choice. It will never happen until you take full responsibility for every facet of your life and your relationships with others. When you stop looking for love, security and peace outside yourself, and discover it within, you are finally set free and the magic of forgiveness has worked it's spell.

This is thedefinition of forgiveness.