Eliminate Any Barriers To Asking

This all started when my mind came to a complete blank about the things I wanted to do, the things I wanted to accomplish and ideas on how to establish multiple streams of income.

I asked the universe for inspiration about all of this and the ideas started coming so fast and furious I though I was going to go on overload. Needless to say, it would take at least four of me and the rest of the year of implement all of the ideas and plans the universe gave me.

It was so unbelievable that I’m still recovering. I felt like I had been plugged into a computer and everything on it was being downloaded to my brain at one time. You have to experience it to know and feel what I went through...and as great as the universe is...I honestly can’t say I would wish that on anyone.

Well, at least I have some very good ideas on where to go next and they should take about three years to implement. So the moral of this story?

Again, this is one of the laws where you have to be specific about what you want, what kind you want and how much you want.

I was very general in asking for inspiration...without the specifics, and that’s just what I got. Like the old saying goes, “I got more than I bargained for,” so learn from me... put parameters around the things you ask for.

You have to have this, if not... you risk going on overload. And yes, if you ask it will be given, but you don’t want it coming at you, like an out-of-control car going 200 miles an hour.

Very shortly, in this paragraph, I’m going to share with you how to get just about anything you want. I usually try to keep things very simple and useable.

However, this is a very complex and sophisticated psychological principle, so I want you to be well prepared for what I’m about to say.

Take a deep breath. Are you ready?

OK.

ASK!

“Oh man, c’mon! It can’t be that easy, can it?”

Oh yes it can!

You just have to know how to ask.

Here’s a suggestion. Go get the book, “The Aladdin Factor”, by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen, the authors of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series. It’s a great little how to book, all about the power and strength of asking.

To be able to access the power and strength of asking, we need to be able to do at least two things;

1) Eliminate any barriers to asking, and

2) Learn how to ask.

Barriers To Asking

Knowledge of asking - The Eagles once sang, “So many times it happens, that we live our lives in chains, and we never even know we have the key.” The first barrier to eliminate is simply ignorance about asking.

This is one of those times where knowledge is power.

Permission to ask - Too many times we have this belief that it shows weakness to ask questions or to ask for something we want. For some reason, men seem to be genetically programmed to not be able to ask for help. Especially if it has to do with asking for directions. Here’s a quick joke - “Why does it take a million sperm cells to fertilize one egg? Because the stubborn little guys won’t stop and ask for directions!”

How To Ask

Ask for what you want, not for what you don’t want - Now that sounds awfully obvious, but stop and think about it for a minute. If you are asking your spouse to stop yelling at you, your focus (and their’s) is still on yelling. Asking to be spoken to in a more respectful, caring manner is not only asking for what you want, it’s offering a few suggestions as well.

Ask clearly - In order to ask clearly, you have to first be clear on what you want. One way to do this is to get a clear picture in your mind of what you want. A fun and easy way to do this is to create a movie in your imagination of exactly what it is you want. Add as much detail as you can. Asking clearly allows you to.......

Ask specifically - If what you want is more money, it’s fairly easy to get a clear picture of more money. But how much? I can hand you a dollar bill and you’ve got more money than before. I don’t believe that’s what you meant by more money, however.

Ask the right person - In a recent seminar on the BRAAVO Approach, a woman asked me an excellent question - “If I know what I want, but don’t know what actions to take, what do I do?”

Great Question

The good news is you don’t have to re-invent the wheel. Find someone who is doing or has done what you want to do, and then ask them a few questions, such as -

How do I get from where I am to where you are? What are three things I must do? What three things must I avoid?

So here are some questions for your consideration -

If you could ask for anything you wanted, what would it be? Think in terms of relationships, career, financial, etc. What stops you from asking for what you want?

Who do you know that asks well? What could you learn from them? What have you not asked for in the past that you now regret? How might your life be different if you had asked?

Here’s one more suggestion, and then I’ll wrap this up. Knowing what you now know, what would you like to ask for in your life? Take a moment to reflect and get specific about what you might want. Now, ask for something even bigger and greater than that.

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